The Problem of Self Help
The problem is not with the material you have bought, (there is some rubbish out there but the vast majority of books and courses at least contain something that can help you), the problem is with your thinking. Here are a few mistakes we all fall into. Which ones have stopped you from succeeding?
The Magic Wand
No book or course is a magic wand. Nothing can change you except you. A book or course can change your way of thinking or motivate you to change but you decide what to do after you have read it or followed along.
This common attitude sets many people up to fail before they have even opened their carefully chosen self help book.
Don’t fall into this trap. The book or course is a guide, a tool which can help you if you allow it to.
There is a Formula
Following a formula blindly cannot help you improve yourself. First you need to understand what your problem is, why it is happening and what steps to follow. Even better is if the book or course gets you to answer questions or do exercises which help you understand what you need to do to make progress. This is exactly the format I follow in my e-book Self Esteem Secrets and that’s why it is proving to be so helpful.
What is it that is stopping you from succeeding then? Why are you not seeing results?
The answer is…taking action. You haven’t done anything to help yourself by just learning. You need to apply what you know.
So What Can you Do to Make Progress?
Here are a few of my top tips which will enable you to make real progress when you read any self help book or follow a course. These tips will prove invaluable and can help you open up a new world of discovery within you so please keep them in mind when you next read a book or start a course:
- Don’t give up on self help books or courses. Change your attitude and expect success before you start.
- Write down your goals (what you want to improve) before you start reading.
- Make notes as you read
- What steps can you take to apply what you learn? Make notes about how to take action
- Start a journal and each day write about your experiences and any improvement you made, this will encourage you to keep moving forward
- If something didn’t go well think about how you can act next time using the knowledge you have gained from your book or course
- Realize that change needs time and hard work as well as commitment. If you buy a book or course make sure you give it time to work and don’t expect results to come immediately
- Share your successes with others. Tell your friends or family
- Reward yourself when you succeed no matter how small the success was